The effect of being positive is not the same as not having negative thoughts.
I have come to a point of awareness where I am able to pull myself back from the brink of bleak moods, to minimise negative thoughts. I essentially 'talk' myself out of it or remind myself 'for the sake of the kids'.
But putting positive thoughts into motion is more difficult.
Being positive, feels like putting yourself into gear for forward momentum, an anticipation that should lead you to greater engagement.
Preventing or putting off negative thoughts feels more like putting the gears into neutral, holding back but not quite daring to take a different step.
Anyway, being totally composed all the time is impossible, I think we need moments to allow ourself to cry or scream.
I did that on Sunday, it felt good.
Totally understandable, we are not perfect and our days are never the same. We try to make the best we can. Well I am trying! To find the positive in everything. It's still a rather long journey, because yesterday sucks, but it did end a little better though. Blessings
ReplyDeleteWow. This could not be more true. I'm definitely stuck in neutral right now...
ReplyDeleteWow! BM that is an amazing post. Every word is so true. I am sort of scared to thread the path of negative thoughts and also to an extent to face the facts. I am not sure but I could be living in a false kind of positive world LOL
ReplyDeleteI hope and pray you feel better and your kids will know what a wonderful Mom you are.
Loved, loved, loved both your post and your comments on my blog just now. I also have days like yours. And I agree with you 100%, having a positive attitude to life doesn't mean you're not prone to negative thoughts every now and then. When I wake up in the morning everyday, I always come up with a different reason to be positive about and that's how I start my day.
ReplyDeleteAs for your comment on my blog, that's how I feel about the UK, and more specifically about its capital. Yes, I am patriotic in that sense and sometimes more than many people born and raised here.
Greetings from London.
Thank you for visiting my blog:)) I always appreciate new friends. What you said about having a good cry is so true. There are moments when that's the best way to feel better. I bawl and then move on to work things through. Hoping your life improves and improves too!!
ReplyDeleteYou make a really valid point here.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the need to vent sometimes, you're right, we do to. I think that's healthy if it's in a safe, appropriate time/place, for a limited amount of time.
BM, very well said.Thinking positive is a good shooting ourselves up. The opposite is misery.
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