Jul 31, 2012
I am moving out soon with the kids.
I was having a major headache about moving out in time and yet being able to have sufficient time for the renovation of the new apartment to my satisfaction without compromising. Despite the grace period for exit from the current home, the new apartment is just not going to be handed over soon enough. The timing of the move was in the middle of the kids' exams, can you imagine the disruption.
At the same time given my ex's neuroticism, I decided the best was for me to exit the house first before him as early as possible to reduce the tension all around. His allegations and threats through the lawyer about 'his' property in the current home is mind boggling, there is no civility in his response to simple requests, insults my lawyer almost as if he is going psycho. He still sits as if in authority and control. My lawyer tells me, to flick it off like a irritating fly and not be perturbed by him or for her. I cannot begin to describe the sleepless nights and weight of worry.
He is working up to his appeal and his paranoia and interference is getting more frequent and disturbing.
For more than a month I had been searching for short term rental which is tough cos landlords prefer at least 1 year if not 6 months, on top of that I needed to be picky on location that would satisfy the three kids (school - timing, disruption, proximity etc). And I don't need more than 3 months.
It's working out better than I could have directed myself, we've just got a rental to settle in, during the short school break and then we'll have plenty of time to move into our new home during the long school break after their exams, and the workmen don't have to rush and I can take my time to get the furnishing.
An unseen hand, yes....
Apr 30, 2012
I have spoken to different realtors and getting clarification from the bank where I can to see I may move forward as there are still some complications involving the local housing policy.
I started looking and then wondered how I was going to decide. But somehow along the way, my preferences became clearer and I knew almost right away what I didn't want. The environment was important, I don't want to be hemmed in on all sides, I wanted a facing that was at least breezy and clear, rather than have someone else's living room window looking into mine. Traffic noise vs the quiet, the distance to the nearest bus stop, how convenient for the kids to to get to school and so on. Then I'm balancing the need for renovations and then time to do that. I'm thinking of interior decor and deign ideas while I'm surveying and doing the math.
I listed, I prioritize, and then I came upon one in particular apartment that met many of the criteria BUT was that the one? Or was it the one with traffic noise?
My heart wanted it before my head did the checks. So is this my sign? I'm giving myself a little more time, to see if God willing that be the one.
I've begun to clean out the present home, slowly getting the kids to filter through their stuff and clearing out what is not likely to be taken with us on the move.
It's been a busy few weeks, tomorrow is a public holiday , "Labour day' I intend to rest my weary self.
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