How long does this phase last ? The rule books are out on this.
My youngest is entering the teen phase soon, although I think he's there already...
My oldest is out of the teen zone but still very much in the phase of hormones... or it could a girl thing.
I honestly cannot recall going through this phase with that much upheaval where my parents were concerned. I think it was within me, betweee me and myself and among school mates mostly but it wasn't too rocky a period, quite uneventful I think... or did I have it too much under control. Hmmm ???
The good thing is, they are talking to me; I won't always call it a conversation all the time, it could be one way (either way) too.
They get angry, so do I (I am allowed aren't I...I think the rule books says so ) but I keep it going when they think it's the end of the world, like there was no explosion, and sometimes I behave like there was no battle and they can be baffled by this but I think they are getting used to the idea. There are moments when they weigh it by, that the battle between us was stronger just by the length of my silence.
I will survive !
Be Happy, Be Strong, Live Life. I write for the love of it; helps me think clearer and somehow it also gives me strength. it's been healing, it's been a journey; it's about me, being a mom, persons who mean much to me, memories, discoveries, where life has taken me and where I hope it will head. I am moving forward, I'm happier today (1 May 2012)
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Perfect Family
Is there a perfect family anywhere ?. My opinion. I don't think so.
Does it matter ? Ultimately it's what we decide to do, how we choose to judge or react to each person and we live with that choice to either love, hate or maintain relationships for family sake.
I suppose this is the cycle of life, the drama of life and so on BUT Life goes on.
I wrote about My Mother sometime ago. Recently I have been dredging up old memories, which I know I should just drop. My mother has been acting out (literally acting petulant) because of grief and loss and getting me worked up.
A close relative passed away and bad family history (little dramas and sagas) gets dug up. Grief performs some amazing tricks with the mind.
How does a younger person offer advise to an elderly on forgiveness and letting go and moving forward ?
Not that I ever believed I had a perfect family, history and all, I just never heard much about it. At the same time I am hearing about lots of new historical drama that has passed within my own and the different extended families. Arranged marriages that were forced to work and typical IN-LAW horror stories (not a myth !!)... this is the gist of history of my past generation.
My history ( if it be told by my children) ironically while imperfect too is made up of none of these.
Does it matter ? Ultimately it's what we decide to do, how we choose to judge or react to each person and we live with that choice to either love, hate or maintain relationships for family sake.
I suppose this is the cycle of life, the drama of life and so on BUT Life goes on.
I wrote about My Mother sometime ago. Recently I have been dredging up old memories, which I know I should just drop. My mother has been acting out (literally acting petulant) because of grief and loss and getting me worked up.
A close relative passed away and bad family history (little dramas and sagas) gets dug up. Grief performs some amazing tricks with the mind.
How does a younger person offer advise to an elderly on forgiveness and letting go and moving forward ?
Not that I ever believed I had a perfect family, history and all, I just never heard much about it. At the same time I am hearing about lots of new historical drama that has passed within my own and the different extended families. Arranged marriages that were forced to work and typical IN-LAW horror stories (not a myth !!)... this is the gist of history of my past generation.
My history ( if it be told by my children) ironically while imperfect too is made up of none of these.
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