But man can. Call me cynical,
I don't think that Love is instinctive; it's not some sentiment embedded deep in one's nature that it persists despite all else. It is a product of our upbringing and our social environment. It is a choice made that gets buried so deep and therefore it implies it can be 'un-done', (like water erodes the soil to expose the roots) dug away gradually until it appears near the surface and then our mind [and all it remembers] decides to love or not to love. We nurture it again or not with reasons for that choice.
Love implies absolute acceptance - simple yet difficult, is it do-able ?
These statements from my earlier post The Choice to Make, ring true - by M S Peck who said “The desire to love is not itself love….Love is an act of will …. Namely an intention and action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love. No matter how much we may think we are loving, if we are in fact not loving, it is because we have chosen not to love and therefore not love despite our good intentions. On the other hand, whenever we do actually exert ourselves in the cause of spiritual growth, it is because we have chosen to do so. The choice to love has been made.”
If we choose it all the time and make it so, then there will be more ...as is implied by Mother Theresa who said "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." On the other hand this seems simple.
Complicated isn't it? Love! Yes, I made a decision, not to love, as it was no more. Thus in all actions there was no love in it. It was not an easy decision, because it just erodes as time passes, and I did not feel loved.
ReplyDeleteYes and when you love until it hurts, because you made that effort to ensure that the LOVE endured, Love will remain. It is your choice. It is your Decision. Hugs and Blessings
If it hurts why continue to do so, it is such a sacrifice - only God is capable of absolute love. I live by a simple code, drop it if it hurts. I cannot be him. There is no gain in pain.
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Yes agreed, Gaia and K, it is hard, you are right God is Love only he can do so absolutely and perfectly, yet we aspire to follow HIM so we must BE love. It erodes. Yet what we desire mostly is to be loved. We respond in a very human way. If we are hurt, how do we continue.
ReplyDeleteSo easy to forget we are loved by HIM. God Bless
I can fall in love quite easily and soon enough...LOL.........this doesn't mean relationships. I am talking about pets, books, people etc.But never too deeply.
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when I lived on the streets, many people told me they loved me.....but they hurt me. I only began to understand what love is when He touched my heart and never forced Himself on me. I've got so much to learn about love.....Sarah
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