One cannot be a counselor to one's own children. Our job is to love them unconditionally and get angry conditionally.
I find comfort in the psalms than some of the usual prayers these days, they help me to let go, and still pray. "Show me the path I should walk' is what I have repeatedly asked for these past ten years and more.
The anger builds and ebbs and churns and then empties and it wavers with the children's moods.
- Psalm 143