Some days I feel like two different persons.
The sane rational one in the office and dysfunctional in the home.
It's on days when I am so tired from work and would like nothing more but to shower and sleep right away.
Child3 and child2 have been arguing and fighting - so the judge (mom) has to preside. Imagine you are dying for some peace and quiet, both the boys insist on having their say first - at the same time. I can't think straight for all the noise and I just stare at the both of them. I let them go at it for about 15 min. Then asked 'are you both done' , they said 'yes'. I said 'good, that's settled', left them open-mouthed and went to take a shower.
The second matter, Child2 hasn't apologised to his older sister - that's a backlog, have to address it today. I thought I can't put it off or he'll think I forgot about it and he'll forget about it too. I take him aside to talk. After a while, he says he's thinking about it. I decide to leave it, that is more than I expected, I will bug him tomorrow when I'm clearer. But then, he turns around and asks me about the earlier situation, 'what about it' I ask, He asks me, 'aren't you going to do anything'. I ask 'why, did you do something wrong' , he says 'well I did snatch the toy from him'.
And I think .. Wow! I didn't have to say anything at all and there it was - the unblemished truth!
So, I don't have to try too hard all the time, enlightenment, understanding emerges somehow, TIME is all he needed (he was moved by my lack of response).
But then we know, the formula is rarely the same each time.
The oldest thankfully was out like a light ..too tired - thank God for small mercies, ...I could hit the sack, duties done!
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I love this post. Being the mother of two children I can empathize. My daughter and son are constantly rivaling for my attention and regardless of what I do it seems they are in a contest to drive me nuts! It is funny though how when we let them work things out on their own, as annoying as it can sometimes be, they usually make good decisions. That is the true sign of a good parent. With that you can sit back and actually relax knowing you have done your job as best you could. Being a mother is the hardest job of all - that is why God gave it to women...
ReplyDeleteThank you, for the encouragement, I am not alone.
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